Sunday, April 5, 2015

The sight of his face and the sound of his voice fills me with feelings of disgust.

A perpetual child, seeking his next cheap thrill. No care for the damage left in his wake.

"Why don't they like me?" u ask?
Because you're unhinged. Because you're a fraud. Because you're a disgrace.

A mother who still shelters you from an unpromising world, but when she passes, who's refuge will you seek?

Feel sorry for yourself. I will not pity you. If I have nothing worth listening to, then neither do you.

I am not your whore.
If I am, then, the stakes just went up.

But you are now broke. A broke and broken man.

When you request my company, I will say no. When you demand my attention, I will say no. My good mood today will fool you in believing that a "yes" is on the horizon. Sadly for you that won't be the case.

Rage--a rage that you could never grasp. It would be lost on you anyways.

You made your bed, now lay in it.
Left in your own corner, now stay there.

This time, I won't save you from yourself. This time, I will let you die. Nothing worth salvaging, now, anyways. No appetite for the scraps of a meal someone else already ate.

You might as well be another stranger.
Not even worthy of being an enemy.  As all I now feel for you, is indifference and apathy.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

"Concerned community comes together after police
officer shoots, kills unarmed Missouri teen" --Atlanta black star

A part of the very concerned "community" was so grief-striken they decided, in the victims
memory, to loot stores last Sunday, for imperatives like Nike shoes and hair extentions. #justiceformichaelbrown

Saturday, July 19, 2014

The myth of (white) women's oppression?

Forty some odd years ago, feminists bellowed their way into mainstream attention, launching a major offensive on what they called a patriarchal system that had oppressed women for centuries. Painting women as downtrodden and powerless, they railed against men with the missionary zeal of abolitionists and with largely the same message. In short, women were slaves and men were their masters.

They demanded liberation and have been making demands every since.They did a magnificent job of pitching all this. That could be a testament to the inherent truth in their ideas. Or it might be something else, like the fact that they already had so much power that few were willing to question anything they said in the first place. You can put your money on the latter, because even a remotely objective examination of the facts leads to a far more reasonable conclusion. Women were never oppressed to begin with.

Not even close.I’m no historian, but I did attend some history classes before I finished middle school. So, by the time I was 13, I knew what oppression was. And lucky for me I was 13 in a time when people still knew what it wasn’t.Oppression has some pretty obvious tell tale signs. Like torture and death; like bullwhips and chains; gas chambers and death camps. Oppression is a roadmap of scars on the back of a field hand that was purchased at an auction. It is the rope that gets strung over a tree branch in broad daylight and used to choke the life out of someone convicted of being the wrong color.

It is an indelible stain on humanity, void of compassion, dehumanizing to both the oppressed and the oppressor. And the evidence of it is so offensive to modern sensibilities that we preserve proof of it as lessons for the coming generations.Now, when we compare those things to the historical world of women, which was largely one of being protected and provided for, we get an entirely different picture.

It is a portrait not of the oppressed, but of the privileged. And it begs a good many questions that need to be answered.For instance, how many times in history did we have slaves with the first rights to a seat in the lifeboat? Which slave masters were compelled to go off to war to protect the lives of their slaves? How many oppressors tore their own bodies down with brutal labor so that they could provide food and shelter for those they oppressed?

Zero sounds like a good answer.

It also makes one wonder, or should, how many slave masters had to get on their knees before their prospective slaves, bearing gold and jewels to ask permission to be their master? How many slaves could say “no” and wait for a better deal?

How about another goose egg?

It’s not coincidental that feminists pointed to marriage as an oppressive institution. Pointing at nothing and making a lot of noise has worked pretty well for them. And so, in a collective fit of neurotic activism they attacked the one institution that had served as the source of more support and protection for women than any other in history. They became obsessed with depicting a walk down the wedding isle as the path to oppression; each woman’s personal Trail of Tears. You couldn’t buy this kind of crazy if you were Bill Gates.“Hey!” some feminists are shrieking by now, “What about voting rights? Women were not allowed to vote! That’s oppression!” Well, no, it’s not. And all we need to do is look at the history of voting in America to prove it.In the beginning, almost no one could vote.

It was a right reserved for a few older white males who owned land, which left almost all men and a lot of other people out of the picture. This doesn’t say anything particularly special about women. So if this constituted oppression, then it meant that nearly everyone was oppressed. Maybe the early Americans didn’t catch on to that one because they were too busy celebrating their new found freedom.Anyway, as time passed, because men of good values wrote an amazing constitution, voting rights were expanded to other groups.

First to the men who didn‘t own land, then later to other ethnic groups, then still later to (white) women. Further down the road, black women and men were finally guaranteed the vote in 1965. Even further down the road the voting age was lowered bringing another large group of people into the fold. And today we are debating the voting rights of illegal aliens. Formerly oppressed hamsters may be next.And we should consider that there was something of a tradeoff for women regarding the vote. Like exclusion from combat and men compelled to turn over the fruit of their labors and to die for them at the drop of a hat. Perhaps it wasn’t a fair tradeoff, mainly to the men.

But proof of women’s oppression? Comedians pay for material that isn’t nearly this funny.The same was true for owning land. Plenty of women weren’t allowed to…for a while, anyway. It probably had something to do with the fact that it was men who had to have land on which to build women homes, or perhaps they figured that men who were expected to face bullets in order to protect that land might be better, more deserving keepers of it. Who knows what insanity plagued us before feminism restored us to reason?Whatever the reasons, those rules weren’t long lived. Besides, not being able to own land was pretty much softened by the fact that women could choose men to provide it for them through that oppressive institution of marriage, and the phallocentric, linear thinking alleged tyrants that they married.I am old enough to remember well the older rules for men. Work hard and take care of your woman. Be prepared to lay down your life for her.

Watch your mouth in the presence of a lady. Offer her your seat, even if she is a stranger. The same for opening doors and lighting smokes. Disrespect her and risk a beating. Touch her in the wrong way and you’re a dead man.This isn’t the way oppressed people are treated. But we do have another word for those fortunate enough to benefit from these kinds of standards. Royalty. We didn’t coin the term “princess” for women without a good reason.With a few trivial exceptions, this has always been the gold standard for the treatment of women. The fact that this is beginning to change, that men are starting to put the brakes on doing a lot of things out of chivalry, is just another example of feminism shooting women in the foot. Accidents happen, especially self inflicted wounds, to people that play with guns when they don’t know what they’re doing.Still, I have to hand it to feminists in their capacity to spin a wild yarn.

Taking a privileged class of people and convincing the world that they were picked on was a masterful piece of skullduggery. But it was only successful because the mandate for men in western culture has always been to give women whatever they want without much question. Otherwise, the plethora of feminist ideas would have buckled under the oppressive weight of unchecked dishonesty.Nonetheless, our unhealthy enabling of them set the stage for women to pass up men in every aspect of life. Women are now more educated than men and they also have most of the jobs. Nothing suggests this is going to do anything but favor women even more in the future. All that from an ideology that resides a house of cards that only remains standing because the wind itself has been scared out of blowing it down.I would offer the feminists my kudos for shrewd work and a job well done, but winning a race is easy when you start with one foot already across the finish line, and everyone else pretends not to notice.

the myth of women's oppression
why feminism is a fraud

Sunday, July 13, 2014


"My presence is charity. Just who I am. Just like Obama's is. Obama provides hope. Whether he does anything, the hope he provides for a nation, and outside of America is enough. Just being who he is." 

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Seattle Seahawks' Cornerback Richard Sherman is elite by many standards. The All-Pro NFL star will soon reach a milestone in his profession that only a small fraction of  his peers will see, he's rich, and he's a Stanford graduate. None of these accomplishments; however, could insulate Sherman from the onslaught of racist abuse hurled at him after he gave an impassioned soliloquy post Sunday night's big win against the San Francisco 49ers.After Sherman vehemently declared, "I'm the best corner in the game! When you try me with a sorry receiver like Crabtree, that's the result you gonna get."

The backlash came swiftly. Detractors characterized him as a "violent," "classless"  "thug." But in reality, we merely witnessedRichard Sherman have a human moment on live TV. While overcome with emotion, he had an energetic outburst that should be less than appalling following a game in which huge, grown men slam their bodies into each other and the ground for millions of dollars.Public reaction to Richard Sherman's unfiltered excitement reminds those of us who inhabit non-white bodies that white supremacy does not afford Black people the space to express our humanity. Instead we must always stay calm and remain "classy" lest we embarrass ourselves or the race.

The familiarity of the racially-charged overreactions  prompted immediate push back from those who understand the implications of coded-language and overt epithets.But one of the more popular defenses of Richard Sherman was nearly as problematic as the racism he evoked.Sherman has two degrees from Stanford University, and many of his supporters were quick to point to them in their efforts to paint Sherman as an exhuberant but wholly non-threatening Black man. By this logic, the bigots and flamethrowers are wrong because Sherman'seducational pedigree makes him inherently deserving of respect.This defense, however further marginalizes those without access and opportunity. It is implied that "good" black people are allowed to toe the line of socially acceptable behavior; whereas, "ghetto/poor/uneducated" Blacks deserve the universal scorn they receive.As a Black woman with class and educational privilege, I have witnessed those who consider themselves "elite" wrap themselves in their achievements and lull themselves into a belief that an undeniable resume will be a shield in a world that despises their existence.

In some ways privilege may cushion the blow of bigotry, but the sad fact is that no matter what an accomplished Black woman or man achieves, someone will always find an excuse to view them through a prism of worn stereotypes. Our decisions are scrutinized and our missteps amplified, and from the time we are small children we learn to adjust ourselves to societal expectations of our inferiority.While the chasm between the haves and have nots in Black America seems to be widening, we are all still connected by virtue of the white supremacist conditioning to which we're all subject.

The extent to which you can conform to dominant culture and assimilate within it depends heavily on your social positioning, and far too many of us view our success by our proximity to whiteness.Those who find Richard Sherman shouting on TV disturbing do so not simply because of his behavior. His degrees could not protect him and neither will yours.

By Kimberly Foster